He thought he’d insulted me
We’d only just met, but I know embarrassment when I see it.
If I could rewind conversation to the start, and have it over again, this is what I’d say…
When you asked me what my job is, and then made a comment to say I’m ‘at menopause’, it wasn’t an insult. You didn’t need to apologise or feel embarrassed.
What I mean is.. it shouldn’t be an insult
Many, many people would think differently, perhaps more so of your generation.
I don’t think it’s just a generational thing though.
The more we question our societal beliefs over the meaning of menopause, the better.
That bit is a choice.
There is even research to show that how a society views menopause as a whole, directly influences the symptoms that show up (and severity of them) for an individual within that society.
When it was synonymous with being ‘less’ of a woman, when we were expected to move aside to make way for younger women, and men, to take over, because our value has been, shockingly, in parallel to the function of our ovaries.
The way I see it, menopause is only an insult if we continue to see it as ‘all downhill from here’.
These days, we have more choices, more knowledge, perspectives and strategies that serve us well in how we manage this time of life, instead of it being something we’re at the mercy of.
No, when you implied I’m menopausal. You were kind of right.
Not all women get to this chapter of life.
I’m here and I’m ready for it.
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